OPTIONS WHEN DAYS DON’T TURN OUT TO BE THE WAY WE HOPED THEY WOULD …
In reading my Birthday Blog from last year, May 30th 2008, it’s clear to me now that I was feeling the need to count my blessings and, in so doing, hoped to encourage all of you to do the same.
But, for each of us, much happens in a year – occasions we have celebrated, friendships which have enriched our lives and, unfortunately, challenges we’ve had to overcome. As for the challenges, we can only hope that we’ve handled them with grace and dignity.
So, while I still wish to count my blessings – my husband, my children and grandchildren heading my personal list – I also have learned that there are times when it is absolutely necessary to be selfish and to take care of myself, even at the expense of not spending time with nor offering myself to those whom I love the most.
The lesson is one that I have consistently attempted to teach my patients and when friends have opted to teach it to me, it has not landed on deaf ears. However, it is one that I admit to not practicing often enough.
So, on this my 68th birthday, I hope all of you who are attempting to contact me (remembering that it is my birthday)understand that I am opting to respect my private space in a need to interrupt a bad migraine cycle. In doing so, I hope to be modeling – for any of you who may need such a model – that we do not honor ourselves nor truly make ourselves available to others when we do not take proper care of ourselves, even on a day which happens to a birth-day.
Don’t misunderstand me, though. I do think it’s necessary to celebrate our lives and whatever we feel we have accomplished. It’s just that this year, with a bit of saging in my aging, I simply recognize the need to opt to act differently … and hope that in doing so I reach my goal to feel better and am not, of course, hurting anyone in the process of doing so.
With best wishes for good health and happy birthdays to one and all ~ Linda