A simple, elegant gift of the world in a box …………………….

In this holiday season when parents, grandparents, relatives, and friends attempt to feed the fantasies of children who are expecting to receive gifts, many are doing so by over-spending, going into debt, and losing sight of the fact that if they are fortunate enough to share the holidays with loved ones, there is no shame in pulling back the purse strings and gifting the children and each other in the best possible way, with their support, their unconditional love, and, most importantly, with their presence (as opposed to presents).

I don’t think children are ever too young to be taught about what we value, and the best way to teach is by example: simple, easy to understand explanations, with no apologies.

Here’s where I believe less is more – less material giving that is. After all, isn’t the spirit of the holidays about being together and sharing the joy of the season? And giving a few choice gifts is often more meaningful, more memorable, and treasured all the more.

On the other hand, excessive “giving” teaches children to expect to be showered (no matter what the cost or financial sacrifice) with everything from expensive electric toys to anything those who are filling the season with an over abundance of commercial “specials” are promoting. The end result is, I believe, that the spiritual meaning of the holidays is lost with the focus on buying gifts as a way to show our love. Worse still, the expectation children have of receiving is not often followed with the need to teach the importance of giving.

What better way to help develop a child’s character than to share a meal, to sit and play games, to sing or dance or do whatever allows everyone to feel free, at ease, and happy to be with one another?

I wish that for all of you and hope that we are able to foster those values as we celebrate with our young children and adult children who will all be more than grateful for whatever they are given as long as it is given lovingly and thoughtfully.

Healthy, Happy Holidays to one and all!


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