“… AS TIME GOES BY … “
If you’re not familiar with Frank Sinatra singing: The world will always welcome lovers AS TIME GOES BY … do go online and listen. It’s worth it. Love is worth it!
Whether or not you pay homage to St. Valentine, cater or do not cater to Hallmark, or honor your loved ones in other ways on this day or any other day, I think we’d all agree that LOVE is the emotion we’ve associated with February 14th ever since we were children … and even now, as time goes by.
In that spirit, I’d like to share some of my favorite Valentine’s Day quotes with you:
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
Romeo and Juliet:
My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.
Age does not protect you from love. But love, to some extent, protects you from age.
-Antoine de Saint-Exupery:
Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward in the same direction.
-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:
Love does not dominate; it cultivates.
Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away.
I have learned not to worry about love; but to honor its coming with all my heart.
Although I could write pages about each of these quotes, when Alice Walker wrote that she learned not to worry about love, I assume she meant that given the emphasis placed on the significance of Valentine’s Day, not worrying is something she did, in fact, have to learn.
And every year at this time I find myself reminding patients and friends alike who are not in a loving relationship at the moment or who are depressed about not having something to do, someone with whom to share THE day, that it is just that. A day! If it’s a fun-loving day, well that’s great! But, if worrying or feeling sad doesn’t allow you to have hope and doesn’t permit you to remind yourself of all the love you have received and have given throughout your life, then you’re cheating yourself and giving too much power to what, after all, is just one day!
That doesn’t mean that without the capacity to love and/or never having experienced genuine love from another person that one’s life isn’t impoverished. It is! To paraphrase Anais Nin: The experience of love breeds a feeling of youth, a sense of being fully alive and empowered with energy. And who amongst us would choose not to feel fully alive?
So, on this Valentine’s Day, I wish to say a public and personal thank you to all the people who have made my life richer by sharing their loving thoughts and feelings with me and hope that all of you are able to do the same for those who have shown you love.
After all, acknowledging those who love us is as rewarding as receiving their love. The two do go hand in hand!
With warm wishes to one and all, I hope your day is filled with – at the very least –loving thoughts and heart-felt gratitude.
Have a great day!